Conflict viewed as opportunity
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship whether it be in the family or the work place. Many people put a lot of energy into avoiding conflict and as a result never truly address the underlying reasons why it arises in the first place. Conflict avoidance seems to be a strategy that has developed in modern day society to deal with the never ending onslaught of stress and unfortunately it creates more problems than it solves.
How many of us, rather than stand our ground, give in to our children just to have a quiet life? Deep down we know that discussion is the best way forward but after a long day isn’t it easier just to give in and agree to something that we know will have a negative impact on us and our family down the line?
Rather than perceiving conflict and confrontation as red flags to be avoided I suggest that we welcome such interaction as opportunities for positive change.
Good management practice
In the work place, we are all familiar with the feelings of frustration when we are not listened to and fobbed off with pleasantries. Management that is directed to avoid or even suppress conflict will use such avoidance strategies and in doing so alienate its staff. Management that is unable to or unwilling to listen to criticism or suggestions undermines its goals. It is a sign of strength and good leadership when management embraces conflict, encourages discussion and uses it to develop cohesion within the company.
Resistance in therapy
In good therapy, resistance is viewed by an experienced therapist as an opportunity to uncover unconscious motivations that might otherwise wreak havoc on the therapeutic relationship. Any issue presenting itself as a resistance to change and progress when addressed head on is dealt with effectively. If a client fails to honour any agreement made at the start of therapy then that would be an example of resistance. By failing to address the reason why the client continues to arrive late to every session, fails to engage, or even delays payment the therapist is behaving like the parent avoiding conflict at home, or management choosing to ignore employee suggestions. The result is the same!
Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic Conflict Management Therapy
So how does someone who has spent their whole lives avoiding disagreement and criticism learn to see it as fruitful and something to embrace? Well, this is where hypnosis comes in!
Learning anything new involves change. The mind is designed to protect the status quo and avoid change. Hypnosis is a tool used to relax the part of the mind that prevents change. Hypnosis is the key to affecting the necessary change required to learn something new. There is no will power involved because you are harnessing the power of your own mind to do what you want to do!
Using a combination of Hypnosis and Psychotherapy we at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man have developed a way of helping parents, teachers and managers embrace disagreement and criticism using them as opportunities to develop meaningful dialogue with a view to developing rapport in order to move forward. To be an effective parent or manager of any group of people ultimately requires the ability to mange conflict. This is what we teach!
If you are a parent and are looking for help to resolve conflict within your own family, a teacher unable to resolve conflict in the classroom or with management, or a manager who finds it difficult to deal with disagreement then why not call Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic on 842938 to find out how we can help you.