Transference is very important dynamic in Hypno-Psychotherapy in that it provides the client with the opportunity to address in the present a problem from the past.
The problem was buried in the subconscious because the client did not have the emotional resources to deal with it when it occurred in the past.
The therapist provides a safe setting for the client to address the problem and guides the client to its resolution.
If the problem was originally with a parent then the client will perceive the therapist in that role and react accordingly. The client will gradually become aware of the dynamic and realize how the original problem had been influencing his/her relationships with perceived authority figures throughout his/her life.
At the end of therapy the transference ends and client and therapist are released from the roles they played in order to facilitate the change sought by the client.
The client is no longer subconsciously adversely offended by or influenced by past events as the associated negative emotion will have been released in the therapy.
In a nutshell, Hypno-Psychotherapy provides the individual with the opportunity to address the emotional root cause of a physical symptom or condition at source. The symptoms are seen as a metaphor for the underlying root cause and as such serve only to make the client pay attention.
During the course of therapy the therapist facilitates the healing process by providing the client with the opportunity to play out and resolve what he/she was unable to in the past. During the process the client makes the connections and repressions buried in the subconscious are uncovered and the power they wielded over the client consciously understood. Emotion is released spontaneously when a repression is uncovered in this way and the desired change is achieved.
Dr Joseph Burgo talks about Transference and what to expect in Therapy
People usually do not enter psychotherapy with the goal of changing their perception of self. On the contrary most people who enter psychotherapy are completely unaware that it is their faulty self-concept that is at the root of their suffering. They initially seek to preserve their perception of self exactly as it is but without the suffering that goes with it.
Fear of Change
Probably the hardest thing for any human being to do is to change. Most people will do everything in their power to maintain the status quo and will resist change as if their lives depended on it. Why else would a woman remain in a marriage with an abusive husband? Why would someone who wants to lose weight continue to overeat? Why would a woman who notices a lump in her breast or a man who notices a lump in his testicle ignore it or delay seeing a doctor?
Change ultimately involves taking a step into the unknown and that, for most people, is a scarier alternative to the pain they continue to experience in their lives. The pain that people experience is in direct proportion to the resistance they exert to change. It is only when a person let’s go and steps into the unknown that pain disappears.
Handing Over Our Power to Authority Figures is Not the Answer
Pain, whether it is physical or emotional, is a guide that directs us to make the changes we need to make in our lives. Many people, however, see pain as a nuisance and something to be alleviated, numbed and avoided at all costs. Rather than seeing emotional pain as guiding us to make the changes we are resisting many people turn to medication to alleviate it. Many turn to psychologists and counselors to take their pain away. Very few own their pain and see it as a guiding light that could be used to lead them to make the changes that life judges they are ready for. Most would rather hand their power over to an authority figure they set up in their minds as having special powers to cure them. Even when the medication prescribed does not alleviate their pain they hold on to the belief they hold about the authority figure and continue to take medication, often for years.
Pain used as a guiding light in Hypno-Psychotherapy
Psychotherapy, if conducted in a way that avoids the influence of either the client’s or therapist’s ego can be a very effective way of affecting the necessary changes the client has been resisting. Rather than seeing the therapist as someone with special powers to take away a person’s pain a more constructive approach would be to see the therapist as a partner who willing chooses to enter into an agreement with change as its purpose.
The people who come to psychotherapy to alleviate their emotional pain and suffering normally do not see that they will ultimately have to change their minds about something that is preventing them from changing. This something is the way they perceive themselves and the world they perceive as outside of themselves and responsible for their suffering. Most of them come with an idea that they can in some way control their suffering to the degree that it is tolerable so that they can continue as before. At first the idea, that by defending their perceptions they are clinging to their suffering, does not seem to register but with each session change gradually occurs as both client and therapist begin to move toward each other finding common ground for agreement.
It is pain that is responsible for bringing client and therapist together and it is the resulting changes achieved that ultimately relieve the pain and set both free to continue to their next stages of development.
Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic
Xavier and Mary Nathan are in private practice at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man where they use a combination of hypnosis and psychotherapy adhering to the principles outlined in this post. To find out more about the therapy provided by Xavier and Mary at Setanta Clinic visit their website or call 842938 to arrange a free initial consultation.
People use coping mechanisms all the time to survive the challenges they are presented with on a daily basis. The coping mechanisms I refer to are sometimes called the ‘masks’ we hide behind.
Nobody deliberately puts on a mask in order to deal with someone or an experience; it is simply something we have all learned to do and is now something we do without thinking.
The masks we wear are the roles we play when we are with certain people and dealing with certain situations. We simply can’t help playing these roles which have become part of us.
We form relationships with other people who are also wearing ‘masks’. We judge people and they judge us though nobody sees further than the ‘mask’. We live our lives believing that we know ourselves and the people in our lives when what we are doing is making it all up in our heads.
The most common ‘masks’ used by people are the labels we hide behind. The labels like, son, daughter, father, mother, husband, wife are roles most people get to play but in many cases people cannot disentangle themselves from their role and they become stuck.
This can also happen when people take their jobs so seriously that they identify with their job description. This is a trap that many find very easy to fall into especially when it is their job that validates them as people deserving respect. Without the title many feel lost, without purpose and even in some cases, invisible.
Who Am I?
Psychotherapy coupled with Hypnosis is a wonderful way for people to get comfortable not wearing any ‘mask’. It is a way to find who you really are and to express yourself without the need to hide behind any artificial role, self made or imposed. Therapy is a most fulfilling journey within – a journey of self discovery!
It is not the role of the therapist to decide what is best for you as you are the highest authority in your own life. The role of the therapist in Hypno-Psychotherapist is to help each person become aware of their own personal power and ability to affect the changes they desire. Healing is spontaneous and is as a result of a change in mind. It is only by changing our minds that we correct our perception of ourselves and the world we inhabit. By dropping our masks we reconnect with our own inner source of wisdom putting us directly in charge of our own direction in life no longer influenced by forces outside of ourselves.
To find out more about the therapy we provide here at our private practice, Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man visit our website www.SetantaClinic.com or call us on 01624 842938 to book a Free Initial Consultation.
Video by Xavier and Mary Nathan on Hypnotherapy and Perception
Once we form an impression of someone or something it is hard to change that impression. If you were frightened by a dog when you were young then the likelihood is that you will have formed the impression that dogs are scary. Logically you know that all dogs cannot be the same as the dog that frightened you but logic has nothing to do with feelings. It is how you feel about dogs that governs your attitude and behaviour around dogs and these feelings are as a result of the impression you formed about dogs when you first came across them.
In much the same way people have formed an impression of Hypnosis based on how it was portrayed to them when they first came across it. Most people seem to be influenced by the image of the hypnotist on the stage putting people under their spell and making them do foolish things to entertain an audience.
Once an impression like this had been formed in the mind of a person you can understand why it might then be difficult for them to see hypnosis as a tool for healing in the clinical setting. In this regard stage hypnosis had given an impression that then closes the door to the minds of many to the power to heal.
Even the word hypnosis conjures up feelings and impressions that could not be further from the truth. If you see a person slumped over and seeming to be under the control of a hypnotist on stage it is no wonder that you would then come to the conclusion that hypnosis renders you vulnerable. You might have formed the impression that in hypnosis the hypnotist can make you do anything and this is a scary prospect for most people. This is why only the volunteers who are inclined to be exhibitionists are chosen by the hypnotist and that is the first stage of the elaborate illusion created by the stage entertainer in partnership with, a more than willing to please, volunteer.
In reality, hypnosis is a state of relaxation. In the state of hypnosis you suspend the part of you that would otherwise prevent you from entertaining ideas other than the ones you hold firmly to, including your belief in your own illness. However, in hypnosis you would not accept any suggestions given to you that might go against your own moral or ethical principles. In the clinical setting you are given suggestions while in hypnosis to get you to question your belief in your own illness. It is only in changing your mind about your illness that any change can take place, and this is where hypnosis is very effective.
Simply giving people suggestions to get better is not always the most effective approach. Therapists, like Paul McKenna, who advocate this approach, give the impression that it is the therapist who is the one in control and who is seen as a kind “Miracle Worker”! When the therapist then makes claims to the effect he can cure you and you see him in this light on TV shows and newspaper articles and in books how could you not form the impression that the therapist is the one in control and once again you are like the volunteer on stage.
The kind of therapy used by Paul McKenna is Suggestion Therapy and though it can be very effective it does not always work.
Hypno-Psychotherapy or Analytical Hypnotherapy
Here at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man, Mary and I use a combination of Hypnosis and Psychotherapy which is also referred to as Hypno-Psychotherapy or Analytical Hypnotherapy to treat Depression, Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Insomnia and any condition with at an emotional root cause. When an emotional root cause is not an obvious reason for the condition, like Smoking, Phobias, some Weight Loss and working with children, we then use Suggestion Therapy.
For most conditions we have found that unless the cause of the condition is discovered and dealt with at the subconscious level the condition was not resolved. We have treated many people over the years who had been originally treated by therapists using only Suggestion Therapy and we found that though in some cases the original symptoms were alleviated or even disappeared they were almost always replaced by new and in some cases more severe symptoms.
An opportunity for personal development
If you would look upon your symptoms as opportunities for personal development then understanding the reasons behind your problems would make more sense and the journey of healing becomes a fulfilling experience, more a challenge than a chore.
First impressions can be misleading and especially when made about alternative options to heal yourself. Hypnosis with Psychotherapy is an effective option and its ethical humane approach makes it a therapy that is growing in popularity among medical doctors who no longer see long term medication as a satisfactory solution.
As Hypnotherapists in Private Practice here at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man my wife Mary and I have treated many people who have come to us for a very wide variety of problems. Anxiety, Depression and Insomnia being by far the most common conditions we have been asked to treat.
Last port of call
We found that very often the three conditions are linked in that someone who finds it difficult to sleep at night often exhibits symptoms of anxiety and/or depression. Most people who come to us have tried everything and we are usually their last hope. We see this as a positive because by the time they arrive to us they have tried everything that focusses on the symptoms so when we suggest that it is time to treat the person they are more open to this.
We often use the analogy of people wanting to turn off a smoke alarm because they can’t bear the noise and we suggest that just turning off the alarm does not put out the fire. We explain that every symptom has an emotional root cause in the subconscious. If a person can’t sleep then there must a very good reason but the problem is that the reason is not available to the conscious mind. We guide people to access the subconscious to bring the underlying root cause of their problem to their conscious awareness so that they can then address the problem and in effect put out the fire. Once the fire is out the alarm goes off.
The cause of each person’s condition is unique
Every person who suffers from insomnia will unearth a different root cause for the condition. In all the years I have treated people suffering from insomnia no two have ever shared the same subconscious reason for the condition. Once the cause is discovered there is usually an emotional release called an abreaction. Someone inexperienced in dealing with abreactions could panic when it happens and this can cause further complications. That is why it is very important to seek the help of an experienced and fully qualified therapist when choosing to embark on this course of therapy.
Video Explanation of Hypnotherapy by Xavier and Mary
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Most of the enquiries we receive for hypnotherapy are by telephone and e-mail and most of the people who contact us find us through our advertisement in the Yellow Pages. People contact us to help them with a wide variety of conditions but until we physically meet the person it is difficult to assess their condition and prescribe the treatment that would suit them best. We also give them the choice of being treated by a male (me) or female therapist (Mary).
Free Initial Consultation
We offer a Free Initial Consultation to everyone who seeks our help and during this meeting we listen to the client and assess whether or not we think we can help. If we feel that the person will benefit from the treatment we provide we then recommend the most suitable therapy and we discuss fees.
We normally do not discuss fees until we have met the client and though payment is an important part of the therapy we have never turned anyone away because of money issues.
We have always found a way that was mutually acceptable and ensured that the client valued the treatment they were paying and at the same time did not feel stressed by the financial commitment.
Most people pay by cheque after each weekly session and some even pay in advance as a symbol of their commitment. Some people come every two weeks and others opt to pay by monthly standing order until they have paid for the sessions they have had.
Issues Surrounding Payment
Some people have a problem spending money on themselves ; the main reason being feeling undeserving. Sometimes the issue of feeling undeserving is the biggest obstacle to a person seeking help in the first place. During the Free Initial Consultation this issue would be discussed if it emerges and the client given every opportunity to pay in a way that would make them feel deserving of the help we provide.
Young People and Payment
When young people come accompanied by their parents for our Stop Smoking therapy we suggest that the young person repays their parents for the cost of therapy. This ensures that the young client takes responsibility for success of his/her own therapy which is very empowering for the client. (Those young people and their parents can come to whatever financial arrangement they choose. ) For other therapies we believe that the child deserves to have the cost covered by the parents.
We, at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic, try to ensure that money is not a reason for not undertaking therapy but it too can be used as a tool to develop self worth and confidence.
In this day and age people are finding themselves under increasing stress and hypnotherapy is no longer a luxury but fast becoming a necessity. Rather than looking for ways to justify spending money on our own health and well being it is time we reassessed our priorities and start putting ourselves first. What good are we to ourselves, our families and the world if we are suffering and unhappy?
Hypnosis for Life
Following is a five minutes long video that we have created to explain hypnosis and its uses in healing. Any condition created by the mind can be healed by the mind.
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