A baby places no labels on the objects she comes across. A lump of coal holds as much wonder to a child as would a diamond. A child does not assign meaning or value to the object she encounters until taught to do so.
Our parents are usually our first teachers. The value and meaning we place on ourselves, others and things are hugely influenced by our parents. This does not mean that we will accept all of their judgements. This depends on a number of factors and is unique to each individual. We will accept some judgements from Mother and reject others from Father and vice versa. This is why all the children in a family with an alcoholic parent will not become alcoholics.
Later our teachers and peers also influence the value and meaning we place on things including ourselves and others. The meaning a bullied child will place on things will be different to one who is respected and loved.
The meaning we assign not just to things but to our experiences depends on our previous experiences. We compare with the past what we experience in the present and this is how we recreate the past, time and time again. This is all done spontaneously at the subconscious level below the level of our conscious awareness so we have no conscious control over the process and its effect on our lives.
When a person experiences something that she has never experienced before the mind searches for something similar to compare it with in order to ‘make sense’ of it. When the mind cannot find a similar experience, to compare it with, the experience is repressed in order to be dealt with at a later stage, when we develop the necessary emotional resources to do so.
This ‘repression’ buried in the subconscious does not stay quiet. We receive reminders for the subconscious letting us know that we have unfinished business. The reminders start quietly but if ignored intensify to a point where we experience physical pain and disease. Most people view these reminders as an inconvenience and tend to turn to medication to suppress the symptoms. There are, however, those who see the physical symptoms as a call from the subconscious to be heeded rather than an inconvenience to be subdued.
Hypno-Psychotherapy serves to heed the call from the subconscious and address the buried repression. By resolving the emotional root cause of a symptom in this way we heal ourselves and regain on inner balance.
For more information about how Hypno-Psychotherapy could help you why not book a free initial consultation with either Xavier or Mary Nathan at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel Isle of Man by calling Tel: 842938
You have come to me in order to embark on a course in Hypno-Psychotherapy because something is bothering you. This something is what we call your presenting symptoms and you have no conscious control over them. Your symptoms are bothering you to the degree that they are interfering with your life and preventing you from leading a full life.
The role of symptom
The symptom or symptoms you report, is your subconscious way of getting your attention, and it could be any number of things like or nail biting, or over eating, blushing, rage, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, gambling, or M.E. There are as many symptoms as there are people in the world. Important to note is that your symptom is telling you something you need to hear. Like a child crying for your attention, by ignoring your symptom or suppressing it simply results in your symptom being intensified. The symptom you present is the reason you have come to me for help.
There is a subconscious reason for the symptom
There is no point in simply getting rid of the symptoms without understanding the reason or reasons why they are there. Your mind will simply replace the symptoms and go on doing so until you resolve the underlying cause or causes of the symptoms you report.
Anything that you deem is too painful or unacceptable is repressed by your subconscious mind and that is a basic defence mechanism of every human being. Whatever it is you buried in the subconscious you most likely did so as a child. As an adult your subconscious has given you your symptoms as a way of telling you that you are now ready to deal with that buried material that once overwhelmed you as a child.
The symptoms you report are evidence that such repressed material exists in your subconscious mind and are in effect the alarm clock going off in the subconscious for you to wake up to go to work on yourself.
Your conscious mind is a very strict censor and anything entering or leaving it is carefully monitored. It is for this reason you are not in a position to recall, at will, the root cause of the problem you report.
The steps involved in creating the healing therapeutic environment
The first step to resolving the problems you report is to create conditions for the making conscious of what has been repressed. To do this you must first consciously agree to the following conditions which form the basis for your treatment:
To pay for your therapy according to the terms agreed upon.
To give me at least 24 hours notice of cancellation of a session.
To report every thought and feeling which comes to mind during the session.
You report whatever comes to mind without regard for logical order and report them even if you regard them as trivial, impolite or shameful.
You write down the dreams you have and submit them to me at the start of each session.
Any communication between us during the treatment, written or verbal is kept private and confidential.
Time is set aside every night and if possible every morning to listen to the audio prescribed.
The purpose of agreement in therapy
By entering into this sacred agreement with your therapist you are giving your subconscious the clear message that you have heard its call and are now willing and ready to dig up what you buried all those years ago and as an adult resolve what you were unable to do then. You accept that there is an emotional root cause to your problem and once you have addressed it at the subconscious your symptoms will vanish as there will be no longer any need for your subconscious to keep drawing your attention to what you will have dealt with.
Breaking your agreement
Breaking any of the clauses of our agreement is an indication of subconscious resistance that as such would be seen as an issue pertaining to your problem to be discussed in therapy. Everything that comes up in therapy even the urge to quit therapy before resolving your problem is seen as an opportunity and as such can be used to your advantage if brought up in session.
Before starting a course in Hypno-Psychotherapy at Setanta Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man you will be asked to download an audio called Treatment Preparation by either Xavier Nathan or Mary Nathan, depending on who you wish to be treated by. You will be asked to play the audio for at least a week before you start your treatment, during which time you will prepare your mind for the work you will have to do.
If you would like to know more about the work we do please visit our Setanta Clinic Website or call Tel: 842938 to book a no obligation Free Initial Consultation stating whether you would prefer to speak to a male or female therapist.
Out of the many poems written by the great mystic Rumi I have chosen a poem called The Guest House because I feel it reflects the kind of work that we do here at Setanta Clinic in Peel.
We teach people how to learn from with their emotions rather than pushing them away or suppressing them. We show people how to release themselves from pain and suffering by addressing their repressed emotions and freeing themselves of the limitations that prevent them from leading a more fulfilling life.
Illness as a Result of Suppressing our Emotions
By suppressing their emotions and denying their expression we create conflict within which then manifests as physical illness without. It is learning how to acknowledge and appropriately express our emotions that we create balance within and open ourselves to choices that we would otherwise deny ourselves.
Emotions are not to be feared but listened to as their messages are of special importance in our journey through life. The Guest House is a poem by the great Persian mystic and Sufi, Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rumi, in which he invites us to embrace our own our emotions. He describes them as teachers to be welcomed into the house of mind as they have come to guide us home to the truth.
Hypno-Psychotherapy as Practised at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in the Isle of Man
Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic is the private practice of Xavier and Mary Nathan here in Peel, Isle of Man. The therapy provided by Xavier and Mary is a talking therapy, Hypno-Psychotherapy, that involves the using Hypnosis to relax the conscious mind in order to access the subconscious and uncover the repressed emotions and Psychotherapy to bring the underlying emotional root cause to conscious awareness so they can be understood and released. It is in this sense that Xavier and Mary not only employ the latest therapeutic techniques but also continue to adhere to the wisdom handed down through the centuries which are true and as effective today as they were thousands of years ago.
The Guest House – By Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rumi
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honourably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Hypno-Psychotherapy explained by Xavier and Mary Nathan
Healing through Repression Release by Clara Nathan
Feelings and Emotions
Society looks favourably on people who freely experience feelings of joy and happiness but frowns on unbridled expressions of sadness and pain. From a very early age we are programmed to stuff down these feelings with no regard for the consequence.
Feelings and emotions are there to be expressed and rather than inhibiting their expression if children are encouraged to express them appropriately then there would be no need for them to seek refuge in alcohol, drugs or over eating.
Our emotions belong to us and if we choose to hide or suppress them they will find ways of expression and in many cases these will be self destructive. Painful emotions that we have buried in the subconscious are called repressions and they will find expression, one way or another.
Repressions Manifesting as Symptoms or Destructive Behaviours
If we are involved in any behaviour that is harmful to us then the underlying cause for the behaviour will ultimately be an emotional one. This is an example of how a repression finds expression.
A person who continues to over eat knowing the disastrous consequences of such behaviour has simply found eating food as an alternative to expressing feelings they have suppressed.
People are not normally consciously aware that they are suppressing their feelings. It is a habit they have learned and as such it is something they do subconsciously. In order to reverse the process the subconscious needs to be accessed in order to uncover the emotional root cause of the destructive behaviour … like over eating and this is where hypnosis proves to be an invaluable tool.
Healing through Repression Release
Here at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man my wife Mary and I are in private practice using both Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy to show people how to access their subconscious and make those changes they want in their lives. The presenting symptoms of the people who seek our help are the physical manifestations of problems with an emotional root cause. We help people uncover and resolve underlying cause of their conditions at source, the unconscious. Once the the negative emotion associated with their symptoms is released through abreaction healing is inevitable.
To book a free initial consultation you can call us on 01624 842938.
Video by Xavier & Mary Nathan Explaining Hypno-Psychotherapy
Nobody in this world manages to get through life without experiencing loss in some form or other, whether through death, divorce, breakdown of relationship / friendship or even perhaps a physical loss like the loss of a limb or breast.
We all respond to loss in our own unique way and often this response if not allowed full and natural expression as grief can stay with us and shape the rest of our lives.
You don’t have to wait for time to heal!
My own mother died very suddenly when I was fifteen years old and her death was a shock so great for our family that we never fully recovered. In those days there was very little help for the bereaved family and most people believed that the less said the better and time would heal everything. This is actually the most natural and beneficial way to deal with loss as long as the person suffering the loss is also allowed and even encouraged to grieve. This was not the case for us and in bottling up and not fully expressing our emotions and grieving fully we caused the subconscious to take over and bury the emotions.
Well, time did not heal the loss I felt for all those years until I eventually addressed the loss 30 years later! I did this through the therapy I now provide at our Private Hypno-Psychotherapy Practice here in Peel, Isle of Man. Using Hypnosis to access the subconscious and psychotherapy I was afforded the opportunity to grieve fully and release all the emotions I had repressed as a child and which had plagued me all of my life.
Buried emotions are subconsciously triggered
Any overwhelming emotions buried in the subconscious lurk there and are triggered by seemingly unconnected conditions. These reactions are subconscious so we do not consciously make the association between them and the cause all those years ago. It is only by addressing the emotional root cause at the subconscious level and releasing the trapped negative emotion that we can free ourselves from the debilitating effects of loss.
For any person, adult or child, suffering loss there are skills which are so easy to learn and put into place which means that you don’t have to wait until your middle years to let go of the grief buried inside you.
How can Hypnotherapy help?
The bereaved may experience post traumatic stress disorder specially if the loss is sudden or the death was a very painful one. At Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic Xavier and I offer Traumatic Incident Therapy which enables the client to look at the trauma and let go of the emotions trapped as a consequence of not expressing grief fully at the time of the loss. This is a very powerful therapy that requires specialised training and has never failed to work. It is but one of the various methods we employ to ensure that no stone is left unturned and each client is given every opportunity to reclaim their happiness and equanimity.
A Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is any circumstance which evokes anxiety, overwhelming sadness, fear, anger and other negative emotions.
How children cope with loss
For children suffering a loss either from death or divorce often they may hide their feelings in order to protect the parent who is left. In an ideal world no child should have to carry that burden. Hypnotherapy can help both children and adults to be free to express their emotions and to learn to relax, sleep better and feel in control of their lives once again.
Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic’s Personalised approach for dealing with loss
Every client who comes to Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic is treated as an individual. Each client is helped to make the changes that they themselves want to make and each is furnished with a Personalised CD to continue the therapy in the privacy of their own home long after the sessions have finished. We offer Client Based Solution Focused Therapy and each client is an individual no matter what age.
For a Free Consultation (no obligations) call either Xavier or Mary on Tel: +44 1624 842938
Catharsis and the release of repressed psychic energy
The essence of repression as described by Sigmund Freud consists simply in the act of turning – and keeping – something away from the conscious. Repressed material exerts continuous pressure from the subconscious mind, where it resides, toward the conscious mind which repressed it in the first place. This continuous and constant psychic pressure from the subconscious has to be held in equilibrium by an equal and opposing constant unrelenting counter pressure. It follows then that to maintain a repression requires a constant expenditure of energy.
Freud insisted that the purpose of repression is the avoidance of what he termed unpleasure. The repression consisting of thoughts and feelings will have done its job if the negative feelings associated with it are not experienced. Therefore to release a repression those very feelings one sought to escape from must be fully experienced and the thoughts filed as experiences.
Once filed as an experience without the emotive charge the once repressed experience can now be used like any other experience to help us cope should the same or similar challenge ever face us again in the future.
Without the necessary emotional resources being available and on file in the subconscious a child experiencing a traumatic event may find the normal mental processes being suspended. This will of course occur unconsciously and the event is said to be repressed. This is a survival mechanism used by a mind overwhelmed by an experience that cannot be be dealt with at the time. The event is not forgotten but kept in a kind of ‘cold storage’ to be dealt with when the necessary mental and emotional resources have been acquired. In order to ensure that the repressed material is not forgotten or ignored forever the gap, in what was supposed to be learned from the experience, is replaced by a physical symptom somewhat like a calling card.
What happens in session
In Analytical Hypnotherapy the client is guided into a relaxed state of mind with conscious analytical mind in suspension. While in this light state of hypnosis the client is then instructed to report whatever thoughts, feelings and memories that emerge. The client is reminded to report what emerges in the order in which it is revealed and to refrain from excluding any of the associations on the grounds that they are judged too trivial, irrelevant, shameful or secret. Success of the therapy depends on the client complying with this fundamental rule to reveal everything that emerges.
It is rare for a therapist to come across a client who does not try to reserve some area for himself – a no-go area if you like. Therapy is prevented access to this area of the mind classed as off-limits. This is done subconsciously by the client in an attempt to protect the repression and is is called resistance by Freud.
Resistance is an inevitable and important part of the therapeutic process. It is disappointing to a therapist if unable to provoke these resistances and demonstrate them to the client. In fact overcoming these resistances is an essential function of therapy.
The most important ingredient in Hypno-Analysis or Analytical Hypnotherapy is rapport between client and therapist. It is this trust that encourages the transference of feelings on to the therapist and thus giving the client the opportunity to resolve emotional issues that have been repressed. The therapist takes on the qualities of the person with whom the client needs to resolve these issues and it is common for the client to see saw between admiring and loving the therapist to feeling outright hostility toward the therapist. It is by means of this phenomenon that transference becomes a powerful tool to access the the no go areas and to secure repression release.
Psychotherapy by ~briggsdj2
When a repression is located the client may report it the way a TV reporter would report from the scene of a crime. The client therefore describes the traumatic incident in the past tense and as if it had happened to someone else. The therapist would then direct the client to relive the incident in the present as if it is happening right now. The client would then regress in time and experience the incident fully this time without any interruption to the normal mental processes which occurred when it did happen all those years ago and resulted in the debilitating symptoms the client is now presenting.
The client would then be directed to experience the incident over and over again until every scrap of emotional charge is released and the client sees the incident as just another experience without any of the emotional response that once accompanied it. The first time through the incident may see the client crying uncontrollably and with each subsequent reliving of the incident the therapist will notice the client revealing more and more detail. Eventually the client will run through the incident without showing any emotion and in a bored kind of tone. This is normally the signal that all the negative emotion associated with the repression has been released and it is not uncommon to see the client let out a sigh when it is complete.
The role of the therapist
It is not therapist’s job to advise the client, offer any explanations evaluations or judgements during this process but rather allow the client to fully experience the emotions that emerge without interruption and be kept on task. The therapist must at all times recognise that the client is the supreme authority in his own world and the therapist has not authority to tell the client what anything means or how the client should or should not interpret what comes up. Any therapist that does so is not serving the client but his own ego. The therapist is like a guide on a safari. He ensures that the client is on the right path, has bullets in his rifle and is safe. When the time comes it is the client who is paying to shoot the lion not the guide. A good therapist will ensure that the client feels safe and is fully engaging in the process and not just reporting from a safe distance. Though the therapist will not be advising the client about how to view or interpret anything that emerges in session he will often question the client to clarify what is said and to cause the client to question beliefs stubbornly being held on to.
As part of my own training as a Hypno-Psychotherapist I was required to undergo the therapy before receiving my qualification. How else could you gauge the effectiveness of the treatment you intend to administer if you yourself have not experienced it? I found it a very rewarding and insightful experience during which I released a number of repressions and as a result I cured myself of a number of conditions I had suffered from all of my life.
Following are just some of the conditions my wife and I treat at our private practice in Peel, Isle of Man:
Depression, Panic Attacks, Anxiety, Sleeping Difficulties, Post Traumatic Stress, Underachievement, Lack of Confidence, Fears and Phobias, Irritable Bowel, Smoking, Eating Disorders… and many more.
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