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The Guest House by Rumi


A Poem that Welcomes Emotion as our Teacher

Out of the many poems written by the great mystic Rumi I have chosen a poem called The Guest House because I feel it reflects the kind of work that we do here at Setanta Clinic in Peel.

We teach people how to learn from with their emotions rather than pushing them away or suppressing them. We show people how to release themselves from pain and suffering by addressing their repressed emotions and freeing themselves of the limitations that prevent them from leading a more fulfilling life.

Illness as a Result of Suppressing our Emotions

By suppressing their emotions and denying their expression we create conflict within which then manifests as physical illness without. It is learning how to acknowledge and appropriately express our emotions that we create balance within and open ourselves to choices that we would otherwise deny ourselves.

Emotions are not to be feared but listened to as their messages are of special importance in our journey through life. The Guest House is a poem by the great Persian mystic and Sufi, Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rumi, in which he invites us to embrace our own our emotions. He describes them as teachers to be welcomed into the house of mind as they have come to guide us home to the truth.

Hypno-Psychotherapy as Practised at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in the Isle of Man

Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic is the private practice of Xavier and Mary Nathan here in Peel, Isle of Man. The therapy provided by Xavier and Mary is a talking therapy, Hypno-Psychotherapy, that involves the using Hypnosis to relax the conscious mind in order to access the subconscious and uncover the repressed emotions and Psychotherapy to bring the underlying emotional root cause to conscious awareness so they can be understood and released. It is in this sense that Xavier and Mary not only employ the latest therapeutic techniques but also continue to adhere to the wisdom handed down through the centuries which are true and as effective today as they were thousands of years ago.

The Guest House – By Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rumi


This being human is a guest house.

Every morning a new arrival.


A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.


Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

still, treat each guest honourably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.


The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.


Be grateful for whoever comes,

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.



Hypno-Psychotherapy explained by Xavier and Mary Nathan

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Teenage Depression


Sometimes it is difficult to spot the difference between an unhappy, moody teenager and a depressed teenager. With so much upheaval what with peer pressure, exam pressure, relationships with family members, opposite sex, same sex, not to mention all those hormones causing havoc resulting in huge mood swings.

However, findings show that one in eight teenager exhibit some symptoms of teen depression. If left this depression may turn into a more serious debilitating condition. Help is out there though and the earlier you seek that help for your child the better!

Some of the symptoms to look out for are:

  • Sadness, anxiety or a feeling of hopelessness
  • Apathy
  • Pains in head or tummy
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Loss of interest in activities once enjoyed
  • Self consciousness about body
  • Difficulty making decisions
  • Excessive or inappropriate guilt
  • Loss of appetite or overeating
  • Irresponsible behaviour e.g. playing truant, stealing, forgetting chores
  • Staying awake at night and sleeping late during the day
  • Drop in grades
  • Excessive use of alcohol or drugs
  • Preoccupation with death and dying
  • Staying in bedroom for hours after school

Not every child presents with every symptom but if you can mark some of those listed above maybe it is time to check out what is going on with your son/daughter.

The first step is to contact your GP and arrange for a psychological check up for your child.  You will be better informed then which help would best suit your child.

At Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic we have noticed an increase in the numbers of teenagers who are coming for help suffering from teen depression.  We offer a Free Initial Consultation for parents and teen to assess the conditions and to ascertain the therapy best suited for the individual child.  For many, many teens the results are very positive as we empower them to take control back, to release themselves from the cycle of negative thoughts which result in negative feelings.  We work with their GP who is the primary carer and if medication is prescribed the client continues to take it until told otherwise by his doctor.  However, the therapy we provide gets to the root cause of the problem which not only gives the client the tools to let go of these all consuming negative thoughts/ feelings once and for all and live life as it should be lived … each day a gift to be enjoyed!

Link to Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic website

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Healing through Repression Release by Clara Nathan

Feelings and Emotions

Society looks favourably on people who freely experience feelings of joy and happiness but frowns on unbridled expressions of sadness and pain.  From a very early age we are programmed to stuff down these feelings with no regard for the consequence.

Feelings and emotions are there to be expressed and rather than inhibiting their expression if children are encouraged to express them appropriately then there would be no need for them to seek refuge in alcohol, drugs or over eating.

Our emotions belong to us and if we choose to hide or suppress them they will find ways of expression and in many cases these will be self destructive. Painful emotions that we have buried in the subconscious are called repressions and they will find expression, one way or another.

Repressions Manifesting as Symptoms or Destructive Behaviours

If we are involved in any behaviour that is harmful to us then the underlying cause for the behaviour will ultimately be an emotional one. This is an example of how a repression finds expression.

A person who continues to over eat knowing the disastrous consequences of such behaviour has simply found eating food as an alternative to expressing feelings they have suppressed.

People are not normally consciously aware that they are suppressing their feelings.  It is a habit they have learned and as such it is something they do subconsciously.  In order to reverse the process the subconscious needs to be accessed in order to uncover the emotional root cause of the destructive behaviour … like over eating and this is where hypnosis proves to be an invaluable tool.

Healing through Repression Release

Here at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man my wife Mary and I are in private practice using both Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy to show people how to access their subconscious and make those changes they want in their lives. The presenting symptoms of the people who seek our help are the physical manifestations of problems with an emotional root cause. We help people uncover and resolve underlying cause of their conditions at source, the unconscious. Once the the negative emotion associated with their symptoms is released through abreaction healing is inevitable.

To book a free initial consultation you can call us on 01624 842938.

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Mind Mine of Thought


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In my last post I reiterated the basis for the principle of how we create our reality. I explained that by directing thought we can deliberately affect our feelings and it is these feelings that create our reality.

Many people get hung up on this idea and I get lots of questions about it. Most of the questions have got to do with the idea that people do not want to believe that they have been responsible for everything that they have attracted, the good and the bad. They don’t mind accepting responsibility for the good but they refuse point blank to accept any responsibility for the bad.

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I am asked if  the Native American Indians conjured up their own genocide by dreaming up smallpox and European cavalry. My reply to that  is the Native American Indian will have felt many emotions and their minds would have most certainly been preoccupied with thoughts of the white eye overrunning their land. This focus of thought would have affected their emotions and how they felt and so they created a reality they experienced as a group.

Goyakla the Apache, or Geronimo as he was later commonly known, however created a different reality for himself and his followers for a long time. His feelings of anger and thoughts of invincibility fuelled his reality until he chose to allow his mind to be hijacked and futility fuelled his decision to surrender and be captured. The Native American Indians did not consciously set out to create their own destruction nor do people deliberately set out to get cancer but the Native American Indian did and we do get cancer. As long as man insists on being a victim and choosing to place his trust in a driver he imagines is driving the bus called life the dynamic of how destruction and disease works will continue to elude him.

How we direct our thought is only part of the equation and by itself is a frustrating exercise in mind control. Although I emphasise the fact that I am not condoning force or the any kind I still get people telling me that they loved what I wrote but find it exhausting trying to root out all their negative thoughts and forcing themselves to be positive always ends up in frustration.

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It is like telling me that you ran into a dark room with a torch and did battle with darkness. You shone the torch everywhere and cut through the darkness but it persisted and no matter how hard you tried to defeat the darkness it remained everywhere your torch did not shine. Darkness disappears when you tun on the light in the room. There is no battle or force involved. There is no room for darkness when you turn on the light in the room. By doing battle with thoughts that you do not want you evoke feelings that simply fuel those same thoughts so you sabotage your own efforts from the start.  Why stand outside the room hating the darkness?  Go in and turn on the light. Observe the thought as you would anything outside of yourself. The thought  is not you, it is separate from you and it survives by you identifying with it. Observe it with the curiosity like a child who picks up a caterpillar to look at it and then leave it down and move your attention to where you want it to go.

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Like someone who has just stopped smoking or drinking or eating chocolate. You decided to stop but the thoughts of having a cigarette or a drink persist. Every time the thought arises or passes near you, rather than running from it or giving in to it, observe it and simply say something to the effect “oh there you are again.” Create this separateness between you and it and eventually the separateness becomes so wide  it disappears into the horizon. You make it more difficult for yourself when you engage your feelings and that is why I say suspend your feelings and view the unwanted thoughts as curiosities and they become strangers.

To make it easier for you to practise the art of separating yourself from thought that would otherwise sabotage your happiness I have created a 10 minutes Morning Meditation that you can download for free from my website and put on your iPod or MP3 player. To download this recording Click on the following link to Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic Downloads page

Following is a link to an article I wrote under the name Spirit Whisperer on HubPages. I explain by way of my own personal experience, how our limiting beliefs can sabotage  our efforts to achieve what we truly desire and how I overcame these same limiting beliefs.

Mind Body Dynamic

Think Thank Thoughts of Love to Happiness


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We spend most of our lives see-sawing between our feelings. Sometimes it might feel as if you are on a boat on the ocean at the mercy of the weather not realising that not only does the boat you are in have oars but it also has an engine. We wake up every morning not knowing what to expect and if we take the time to think about it most of us would probably imagine that life happens to us and how we feel depends on external circumstances quite out of our control. In this article I would like to explain how you are responsible for how you feel.

Happiness like sadness is a feeling. You can’t explain a feeling all you can do is feel it. You can explain a thought but you cannot feel a thought. A thought is not a feeling. I can think about the sea and even remember or imagine a time I spent by the sea. I can even conjure up the sound of the sea, the smell of the sea and the feel of the spray on my skin. The feeling I associate with this thought could be sadness because I am sitting on the beach crying because my wife has left me for another man or it could be joyful as I look out over the horizon in anticipation of seeing the boat that is bringing my son home from war.

The thought you think affects your mood and makes you feel how you feel. The thought propels you into the feeling and once you are feeling the feeling your thoughts are hijacked and you keep thinking those thoughts and making yourself feel more of those same feelings.

Normally when we are in “idle” mode thoughts come and go. When we give a thought our attention we are directing ourselves into a feeling. It is how we choose our thoughts that determines our mood and the way we feel. The thoughts we pay attention to create our feelings. So you can conclude that the more time you spend paying attention to happy thoughts the happier you will become. By the same token the more time you spend thinking about sad things the sadder you feel.

By thinking happy thoughts you make yourself feel happy. Thinking sad thoughts makes you feel sad. You are the only one in there with you. You are the one doing the thinking and you are the one choosing the thoughts to think. So, you are the one responsible for how you feel.

Knowing this then why won’t you choose to think the thoughts that will bring you feelings of happiness, joy and love? The reason is habit. The mind has gotten into bad habits. Because you have never taken control of your ship and directed your mind to think what you want your mind has been steering the boat. The boat has gotten used to docking at certain ports and to steer a new course to happier destinations you must now take control of the steering wheel.

Like any change you want to make in your life some effort must be exerted initially. By persistence in choosing the thoughts to focus upon you change the old pattern and you get used to a new way of being in the world.
One very good way to trick your mind into reversing its attention from sad to happy thoughts is to regularly ask your self the question “What can I be grateful for right now in my life?” Simply finding things in your life to be grateful for has the affect of changing the direction of your thoughts from negative to positive and so altering how you feel. Start the day saying thank you, spend the day saying thank you and end the day saying thank you. This is a sure way to attract more love and happiness into your life. .

Keep finding things to be really grateful for like things that you have, things that you do and things that you are and you will start feeling happier. You cannot feel bad while you are feeling grateful so gratitude is the short cut back to happiness. The happiness then makes it easier for you to remember happy memories and the cycle continues. Photographs are a great way of getting you to kick start happy memories.

Before I get out of bed every morning I say thank you to my bed and feel a great sense of appreciation that I have such a comfortable bed to sleep in. I look across at my wife and I think how thankful I am to have another day to spend with her. I look across at a photograph of myself as a boy of 3 years old and I thank the child within me. I thank the clothes I am going to put on. I say thank you to my body for being fit and healthy and the list goes on. I spend at least 10 minutes every morning doing this before even getting out of bed and continue to do this during the day as often as I remember to do. I thank everyone I meet (not out loud but in my heart) and send them good feelings. What you send out comes back to you 100 fold. I do it and it works. I am a very happy man most of the time and when I am not I know exactly how to become happy again and I do!

Here is a poem by a lady who expresses everything I say here in this post but far more eloquently. Shipwrecked by tnderhrt23

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