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Hypnotherapy to Improve Relationships

by Xavier_Nathan

Published on: June 17, 2013

Categories: Human Spirit, Hypno-Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Isle of Man, Mary Nathan, Stress, Thoughts & Feelings, Xavier Nathan

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How Projection Affects Relationships

Projection is the way in which we avoid taking responsibility for those aspects we abhor in ourselves. Projection creates an illusion so elaborate that we completely believe it.

Here is an example of how it works: a father is angry with his son. He sees him as impatient and disrespectful. Every time his wife tells him of how their son lost his temper with their daughters and called them names, feelings of anger well up in him. Every time the father hears his son speaking disrespectfully to him or his mother he feels angry.

The father can’t understand why his son won’t study and avail of the opportunities he himself never had. The father can’t understand why his son eats so badly and is addicted to fast foods although his mother prepares the healthiest of meals everyday from scratch.

The father’s anger and frustration is directed at projections of himself that he has fastened to his perception of his son. Behind this perception of his son and almost completely hidden from view is the ‘real’ son. Most of us never get to see behind the screen we place in front of people and upon which we play our own horror movies.

The father is completely disconnected from these aspects in himself as long as he projects them on to others. In this case his son is mirroring the father’s own impatience and disrespectful behaviour. As long as the father demonizes his son, the movies he watches on the screen hiding his son becomes more and more exasperating. Instead of owning the aspects he has pasted on to his son, he criticises and blames his son for those very things he cannot stand in himself. Instead of saying to himself …

“How could I speak like that to someone so young and innocent? All he needs is my patience, my encouragement and support. He is innocent. I am using him to attack the aspects in myself that I loathe”.

The father abhors his son’s addictive nature and indiscipline in order to justify his own excessive alcohol and tobacco consumption. Instead of applying his mind to pursuits that would expand his knowledge and awareness he chooses to numb himself with alcohol, tobacco and TV.

The father in this story represents each of us and how we live our lives completely oblivious to the lies we tell ourselves. The perception we have of others has nothing to do with them and everything to do with ourselves. We cannot recognise what we already do not know about ourselves. So next time you see something in another that you don’t like, ask yourself how can you recognise it?

Projection is what we automatically do. It is a mechanism employed by the subconscious as a means of self preservation. By separating ourselves from our own perceived faults and weaknesses, it is survival of the fittest. By projecting our faults and weaknesses on to others we make them weak in our minds and that is how we justify our attacks upon them.

Owning our Projections as a First Step to Healing our Relationships

Through mindfully being present in the now we can increase our awareness of these subconscious motivations to criticise and attack others. The way to do this is to initially exert effort in owning what we recognise as a fault or weakness in another. Simply stop yourself from boarding any train of thought that might lead you to judging another. In your mind make it a habit to say things like …

” There is another aspect of myself that seeks refuge in one I love. I do that, I am that and I am sorry for making you stand behind a movie screen while I watched movies I made up of you. I can change whatever I am not happy about in myself but first I must admit it is mine. I am not my perceptions and neither are those people I perceive in my life.”

We are all one and when we reclaim what we have projected on to the world and others, only then, can we learn to love unconditionally.

Hypnosis Audio to Enhance Relationship Work done in Therapy

I made an hypnosis audio for the father in question which included suggestions he wished to plant in his subconscious in order to heal his relationship with his son and to see behind the screen that prevented him from relating to his REAL son and not the one he had made up in his mind.

The following are some of those suggestions which you might use to heal your own relationships and raise your awareness so you become more conscious of your destructive subconscious motivations:

The impatience I see in my son belongs to me.
My son’s disrespectful behaviour is mine.
The anger and temper I see my son display is the anger and temper I display.
The indiscipline and lazy attitude I see in my son belongs to me.
The weak will I see in him is mine.
The addictive side I see in my son is mine.
I projected on to my son impatience, disrespect, anger, temper, indiscipline, laziness, weak willed and addictive personality.
These projections I now see as perceptions made up in my own head and no longer played out on him.
I take responsibility for owning these perceptions though deep down I know at my core that these too are illusions I made up and which I have judged as unacceptable.
I now see my perceptions as illusions which have refuge in my mind that believes them to be real.
I am awakening more and more each day to the truth that I am not my projections.
I am!

Video by Xavier & Mary Nathan : Hypnotherapy to Correct Self Perception

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Hypnotherapy for Sexual Dysfunction

by Xavier_Nathan

Published on: June 1, 2013

Categories: Health, Hypno-Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Isle of Man, Mary Nathan, Stress, Thoughts & Feelings, Xavier Nathan

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Of all the conditions that can be successfully treated by Hypnotherapy, Sexual Dysfunction, by its highly emotional nature, lends itself to this treatment. When I say Sexual Dysfunction I am referring to any difficulty or block experienced by either man or woman before, during or after normal sexual activity.

a) Sexual Desire Disorder

This is experienced as a result of prolonged disinterest in sex or lack of sexual desire. This could also include not just sexual activity but also sexual fantasy.

Conventional medicine would seek to treat the symptom by endeavouring to balance the level of hormones in the body whereas Hypno-Psychotherapy would see that the hormonal imbalance would be a consequence of an emotional imbalance. Hypnotherapy would then seek to address the inner imbalance at the subconscious level in order to bring about external balance.

Very often people who seek our help are suffering from depression and/or anxiety and have not made the connection between this and their sexual difficulties. In these cases it is after dealing with the depression and anxiety issues that the sexual problems are spontaneously alleviated and in most cases completely cured.

b) Sexual Arousal Disorders

These disorders are more commonly known as impotence or erectile dysfunction in men and frigidity in women. The lack of arousal could be as a result of a complete lack of interest in sex due to a feeling of aversion or avoidance. In many the fear of failure creates such intense feelings of panic that bedtime becomes an ordeal and a time of intense stress.

Conventional medicine would seek to address the physical symptoms such as focussing on blood pressure and in the case of women the lack of vaginal lubrication.

Hypno-Psychotherapy sees that feelings play a major role in sexual arousal and as such it is the individual’s feelings before during and after sex that are explored in order to uncover the underlying emotional root cause for the diminished sexual arousal. It is in uncovering the cause and dealing with it at the subconscious level that the condition is alleviated and almost always completely cured.

c) Orgasm Disorders

Persistent delays or complete absence of orgasm after the normal sexual excitement and activity are labelled Orgasm Disorders. Conventional medicine would normally seek to treat problems using prescribed medication but ironically in this case it has been found that antidepressants are actually one of the main causes for the disorder.

Hypno-Psychotherapy would suggest that the depression be treated using a course in Analytical Hypnotherapy and once cured and under the guidance of the individual’s GP they be weaned off the antidepressants.

d) Premature Ejaculation

Has to be one of the most frustrating disorders for both partners but especially for the woman when her partner persistently ejaculates before she reaches orgasm. This can lead to tension and conflict in the relationship and the man developing feelings of inferiority seeing himself as a failure and less of a man. Conventional medicine would seek to treat the condition with medication or to use techniques to prolong the time before ejaculation but these do not work.

Hypno-Psychotherapy seeks to uncover the emotional root cause of the condition and once it is addressed at the subconscious level it is then understood at the conscious level and once that occurs the condition is spontaneously alleviated and almost always completely cured.

e) Sexual Pain Disorders

Painful intercourse is mostly experienced by women and is mostly the result of Dyspareunia, insufficient lubrication giving rise to vaginal dryness or Vaginismus an involuntary spasm of the muscles of the vaginal wall that interferes with intercourse. Men whose foreskin is too tight can suffer pain during intercourse as can men with yeast infections that cause cuts on the foreskin that get inflamed or infected.

Conventional medicine is particularly successful with sexual pain disorders because the cause is more mechanical than emotional. There are however cases where sexual pain disorder is as a result of subconscious guilt which then surfaces as an unconscious desire on the part of the individual to be punished. Hypno-Psychotherapy is particularly successful in treating guilt issues.

The Balanced Approach

Hypnotherapy sees Sexual Dysfunction as a subconscious reaction to an underlying emotional problem. It is not enough to just treat the symptom without also addressing the underlying cause and that is why it is recommended that hand in hand both treatments enhance each other and result in permanent cure.

The main reason why so many people simply live with such disorders is that people feel embarrassed to admit that they suffer from them. Many opt to live with the disorder accepting it as part of their lives and never experience the fullest potential of the quality their sexual lives have to offer.

Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic

At Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man every enquiry receives our most careful consideration in that nobody is made to feel judged and the complete confidentiality is assured under the code of ethics we practice. You are also give the choice to be treated by a male or female therapist and your preference should be made known with your initial inquiry. To book a Free initial consultation e-mail either Xavier or Mary or call Setanta Clinic on 842938

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Science and Hypnotherapy

by Xavier_Nathan

Published on: May 17, 2013

Categories: Hypno-Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Isle of Man, Mary Nathan, Xavier Nathan

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What Can be Treated with Hypnotherapy

My wife Mary and I run our own private Hypnotherapy Practice in Peel, Isle of Man where we employ a combination of Hypnosis and Psychotherapy to treat conditions with an emotional root cause. To see a list of some the conditions we treat please follow the link What Can Be Treated

Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man

Our Private Hypnotherapy Practice is called Setanta after the great Irish legendary warrior, Cú Chulainn. The name conjures up in me the idea that we are not our bodies and as such are not limited by the physical restraints placed upon us by identifying with our bodies. Setanta symbolised courage and integrity and the energy of never giving up in the face of any challenge he faced. By naming our clinic Setanta my wife and I seek to identify with this great Irish legend in his principles and work ethic.

Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic Media Presence

As a way to inform our community of the work we do we set up a website SetantaClinic.com and we also created a Facebook Fan Page called Setanta.Hypnotherapy.Clinic both of which we take very seriously. The website also has a blog which we regularly update with posts which explain the work we do from various perspectives and the Facebook Page which reflects our ideas and what we stand for.

Enquiry asking about Hypnotherapy and Science

We often receive enquiries through our website and Facebook Fan page and only just today we received an enquiry from someone asking about Hypnotherapy in relation to dissonance and mirror neurons.

From the enquiry and the phraseology of the comment it seemed that the person had equated what we did with a notion of hypnotherapy was based on suggestion therapy, i.e. Hypnotherapy was a method of conditioning the mind with repeated suggestions to change a behaviour.

I recognised immediately the futility of engaging in any discussion which did not fit this person’s idea of truth. I sent him some links to article my wife and I had written on the subject of Hypnotherapy and urged him to read them first. In my mind I thought it would be sensible that he acquainted himself with our working model of Hypnotherapy rather that us entering into conversation about Hypnotheraspy based on what he believed it to be. Without reading the articles I received an instant reply which read … “Oh ok ….delegation??”

I didn’t wish him to feel that I was ignoring him or that I was unable to answer his questions so the first step was for me to identify his perspective. He revealed his perspective when he said:

“I was studying neurology (from a buddhist point if view) n was interested in its effects on the dissonance or mirror neurons !”

Science tries to Make Sense of Non-Sense

I then followed with a reply explaining the futility of trying to explain truth based on belief. I tried to explain how Science was no where nearer to explaining the world than Religion was to explaining God:

“I see now where you are coming from. It is my view that scientists seek to make sense of what they observe and in every generation old theories are replaced by new ones. The reason why science is no closer to the absolute truth about anything is because scientists are human beings and all human beings rely on perception to make sense of what they observe. Perception is subjective and as such nothing absolute can ever be based upon it and this basic fact seems to continue to allude the science community. (The same holds for people who try to expalin God using their beliefs as a yardstick.)

Scientists have observed that certain neurons are fired in certain circumstances but if you are familiar with Heisenberg’s Uncertainty Principle you will also be aware that whatever we seek to observe, we change and in the act of observing we actually invalidate the observation!

Hypnosis simply affords people the opportunity to suspend their critical factor to the degree that they are enabled to entertain ideas that are not in keeping with their own core belief system.

A person who is suffering an illness also holds a core belief in the illness. If the therapist was to simply say that their illness is as a result of what the client believes then that would conflict with their core belief and alienate the therapist who would then be unable to help. That is where Psychotherapy comes in.

Hypnosis heals nothing, all it does is open the gate. Once the gate is open the client then uses his/her own inner resources to affect the changes they desire. It is not the therapist who cures anyone of anything either. It is the clients themselves who cure themselves. Whether or not certain neurons are firing at the time when the changes are affected may be of interest to scientists who love to then find patterns to back up whatever theory is fashionable at the time, is of little relevance and help in a process that cannot be explained intellectually but can be felt emotionally.

I myself ,along with my Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy qualifications, also have a degree in Physics and Mathematics. You and I are both scientists with completely differing belief systems but that is fine by me. I have no wish to convince you or anyoneof the beliefs I hold ‘today’, but since you asked I explained what they were.

There are people in the world who will die for their beliefs, I on the other hand see beliefs as the way we play with ideas and not worth dying for. In my world no belief is truth and that is why it is easier for me to let go of anything that holds me back in my life. Ideas are like birds that fly through the sky. No bird can make a mark on the sky and it is our choice to follow the flight of a particular bird across the sky or turn our attention to another one.

This is as far as I will go with this conversation as I will be busy with clients for the rest of the day and I also am aware that is not my place to question what you believe to be true. In hypnosis however all ideas can be entertained and that is the magic of hypnosis. You have a great day and good luck with your own personal journey. Thank you for the conversation.

The conversation ended and the person thanked me for the communication intimating that he might follow up at a later time.

Belief is the Filter through which we all make our own sense of the World and our Experiences

I see the world through my own filter and believe that the very best I can do when it comes to explaining it is to see it as positively as I can maintaining the awareness that the sense I make of it is actually made up in my own mind and completely subjective.

The beliefs I hold about the world today may not be the ones I hold tomorrow or in the next hour and I am fine with that. Beliefs are ideas in which we have invested our energy. Energy does not need to be stuck anywhere and when we realise this we are free to experience the world any way we desire.

Life is a game and it is belief that makes it serious. When we learn to change our beliefs at will we regain the power to be children again living in the now playing the game of life!

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Repression and Disease

by Xavier_Nathan

Published on: May 3, 2013

Categories: Health, Human Spirit, Hypno-Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Isle of Man, Mary Nathan, Stress, Thoughts & Feelings, Xavier Nathan

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A baby places no labels on the objects she comes across. A lump of coal holds as much wonder to a child as would a diamond. A child does not assign meaning or value to the object she encounters until taught to do so.

Our parents are usually our first teachers. The value and meaning we place on ourselves, others and things are hugely influenced by our parents. This does not mean that we will accept all of their judgements. This depends on a number of factors and is unique to each individual. We will accept some judgements from Mother and reject others from Father and vice versa. This is why all the children in a family with an alcoholic parent will not become alcoholics.

Later our teachers and peers also influence the value and meaning we place on things including ourselves and others. The meaning a bullied child will place on things will be different to one who is respected and loved.

The meaning we assign not just to things but to our experiences depends on our previous experiences. We compare with the past what we experience in the present and this is how we recreate the past, time and time again. This is all done spontaneously at the subconscious level below the level of our conscious awareness so we have no conscious control over the process and its effect on our lives.

When a person experiences something that she has never experienced before the mind searches for something similar to compare it with in order to ‘make sense’ of it. When the mind cannot find a similar experience, to compare it with, the experience is repressed in order to be dealt with at a later stage, when we develop the necessary emotional resources to do so.

This ‘repression’ buried in the subconscious does not stay quiet. We receive reminders for the subconscious letting us know that we have unfinished business. The reminders start quietly but if ignored intensify to a point where we experience physical pain and disease. Most people view these reminders as an inconvenience and tend to turn to medication to suppress the symptoms. There are, however, those who see the physical symptoms as a call from the subconscious to be heeded rather than an inconvenience to be subdued.

Hypno-Psychotherapy serves to heed the call from the subconscious and address the buried repression. By resolving the emotional root cause of a symptom in this way we heal ourselves and regain on inner balance.

For more information about how Hypno-Psychotherapy could help you why not book a free initial consultation with either Xavier or Mary Nathan at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel Isle of Man by calling Tel: 842938

You are also very welcome to “LIKE” our Manx HypnosisFacebook Page where we regularly post articles pertaining to the work we do.

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by Xavier_Nathan

Published on: April 24, 2013

Categories: Hypno-Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Isle of Man, Mary Nathan, Thoughts & Feelings, Xavier Nathan

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Transference is very important dynamic in Hypno-Psychotherapy in that it provides the client with the opportunity to address in the present a problem from the past.

The problem was buried in the subconscious because the client did not have the emotional resources to deal with it when it occurred in the past.

The therapist provides a safe setting for the client to address the problem and guides the client to its resolution.

If the problem was originally with a parent then the client will perceive the therapist in that role and react accordingly. The client will gradually become aware of the dynamic and realize how the original problem had been influencing his/her relationships with perceived authority figures throughout his/her life.

At the end of therapy the transference ends and client and therapist are released from the roles they played in order to facilitate the change sought by the client.

The client is no longer subconsciously adversely offended by or influenced by past events as the associated negative emotion will have been released in the therapy.

In a nutshell, Hypno-Psychotherapy provides the individual with the opportunity to address the emotional root cause of a physical symptom or condition at source. The symptoms are seen as a metaphor for the underlying root cause and as such serve only to make the client pay attention.

During the course of therapy the therapist facilitates the healing process by providing the client with the opportunity to play out and resolve what he/she was unable to in the past. During the process the client makes the connections and repressions buried in the subconscious are uncovered and the power they wielded over the client consciously understood. Emotion is released spontaneously when a repression is uncovered in this way and the desired change is achieved.

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Hypno-Psychoanalysis for Anorexia, Bulimia and Other Eating Disorders

by Mary_Nathan

Published on: April 4, 2013

Categories: Health, Hypno-Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Isle of Man, Mary Nathan, Stress, Thoughts & Feelings, Weight Loss, Xavier Nathan

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Photo Credit to: Nicola Oliver

What is an eating disorder?

The definition of eating disorders is ‘a range of psychological disorders characterised by abnormal or disturbed eating habits’. Most people are familiar with the disorders Anorexia and Bulimia but are less familiar with Binge Eating Disorder (without purging), Compulsive Overeating and Orthorexia (obsession with only eating certain types of healthy foods)

Anorexia: the term anorexia nervosa means ‘loss of appetite for nervous reasons’.

Physical symptoms include: rapid and dramatic weight loss; loss of menstrual periods; growth of downy hair on body; dizzy spells/fainting; muscle loss; felling cold; tiredness; dry skin and hair loss.

Behavioural symptoms could include: restrictions of food intake; counting calories; cutting out many groups of food, skipping meals, excessive exercise, withdrawal from social events and wearing lots of layers of clothing.

Psychological symptoms: inability to concentrate; mood swings; depression and anxiety around meal times.

Bulimia: the term bulimia nervosa means ‘the nervous hunger of an ox’.

Physical symptoms: swelling of the cheeks or jaw areas; discolouration/erosion of teeth; bad breath; sore throat and tiredness.

Behavioural symptoms could include: binging, purging (vomiting); use of laxatives, excessive exercise, disappearing after meals; hoarding foods; withdrawal from social outings.

Psychological symptoms: an inability to concentrate; mood swings; severe depression and extreme anxiety especially around food.

What are the dangers of eating disorders?

Anorexia has the highest death rate (20%) of any mental disorder! Eating disorders can cause great physical damage: heart failure; extremely low blood pressure; osteoporosis; irregular bowel movements; fertility problems; kidney failure; and if bulimic, also gastric rupture; damaged stomach lining; ulcers and tooth decay.

Who gets eating disorders?

The majority of people who suffer from eating disorders are usually above average intelligence, very high achievers, perfectionists and extremely competitive. Traditionally teenage girls were in the majority of those suffering but younger girls, older women and men are now presenting with the symptoms.

Hypno-Psychoanalysis to treat Eating Disorders

The first and most important thing to say about any eating disorder is that it is NOT about the food. Food is the symptom of the underlying issue. In other words, it is the tool chosen by the subconscious mind to cope with and/or deal with the feelings going on underneath.

It is all about control! The sufferer’s intake of food may be the one and only thing in their live that they are in control of when everything else is out of control. The initial diet or desire to lose a little weight starts off well as the person controls what they eat but then suddenly the eating disorders emerges and it controls the person. When this happens their thoughts and feelings are no longer under their control but under the control of the disorder.

The underlying belief almost always comes down to the belief that they are not loved, that they are not good enough and they are not worth anything. Sometimes it is about not wanting to grow up!

Having a condition, having a label makes them important … a ‘somebody’. The more severe the condition and symptoms the more important they feel as their family and friends worry and do all they can to heal their son, daughter, wife, sister etc. However, many sufferers hold on to their condition because the loss of attention and support may be too great at a psychological level.

Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic

No two clients who come to Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic are treated the same because no two eating disorder clients are the same. The first step is to help each client to deal with the underlying reasons behind why they are doing what they are doing. The reasons are complex and there may be layers and layers that need peeling away, The mainstream medical approach to treating eating disorders is first to get the patient to start eating and then to deal with the psychological causes for the disorder. This may be a bit like putting the cart before the horse and why these disorders are so very difficult to treat successfully.

What we do is help the client to sort out the head first in order to be able and willing to eat again. Working with clients with eating disorders takes some time. It is not a magical therapy that suddenly makes everything alright again but given time and trust there is hope for the client who is prepared to stay in therapy and take part in the recovery process.

Call Mary at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man on 842938 to book a free consultation to find out how I can help you.

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The Purpose of Pain and Suffering

by Xavier_Nathan

Published on: February 15, 2013

Categories: A Course In Miracles, Health, Human Spirit, Hypno-Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Isle of Man, Mary Nathan, Stress, Thoughts & Feelings, Xavier Nathan

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Faulty Self-Concept

People usually do not enter psychotherapy with the goal of changing their perception of self. On the contrary most people who enter psychotherapy are completely unaware that it is their faulty self-concept that is at the root of their suffering. They initially seek to preserve their perception of self exactly as it is but without the suffering that goes with it.

Fear of Change

Probably the hardest thing for any human being to do is to change. Most people will do everything in their power to maintain the status quo and will resist change as if their lives depended on it. Why else would a woman remain in a marriage with an abusive husband? Why would someone who wants to lose weight continue to overeat? Why would a woman who notices a lump in her breast or a man who notices a lump in his testicle ignore it or delay seeing a doctor?

Change ultimately involves taking a step into the unknown and that, for most people, is a scarier alternative to the pain they continue to experience in their lives. The pain that people experience is in direct proportion to the resistance they exert to change. It is only when a person let’s go and steps into the unknown that pain disappears.

Handing Over Our Power to Authority Figures is Not the Answer

Pain, whether it is physical or emotional, is a guide that directs us to make the changes we need to make in our lives. Many people, however, see pain as a nuisance and something to be alleviated, numbed and avoided at all costs. Rather than seeing emotional pain as guiding us to make the changes we are resisting many people turn to medication to alleviate it. Many turn to psychologists and counselors to take their pain away. Very few own their pain and see it as a guiding light that could be used to lead them to make the changes that life judges they are ready for. Most would rather hand their power over to an authority figure they set up in their minds as having special powers to cure them. Even when the medication prescribed does not alleviate their pain they hold on to the belief they hold about the authority figure and continue to take medication, often for years.

Pain used as a guiding light in Hypno-Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy, if conducted in a way that avoids the influence of either the client’s or therapist’s ego can be a very effective way of affecting the necessary changes the client has been resisting. Rather than seeing the therapist as someone with special powers to take away a person’s pain a more constructive approach would be to see the therapist as a partner who willing chooses to enter into an agreement with change as its purpose.

The people who come to psychotherapy to alleviate their emotional pain and suffering normally do not see that they will ultimately have to change their minds about something that is preventing them from changing. This something is the way they perceive themselves and the world they perceive as outside of themselves and responsible for their suffering. Most of them come with an idea that they can in some way control their suffering to the degree that it is tolerable so that they can continue as before. At first the idea, that by defending their perceptions they are clinging to their suffering, does not seem to register but with each session change gradually occurs as both client and therapist begin to move toward each other finding common ground for agreement.

It is pain that is responsible for bringing client and therapist together and it is the resulting changes achieved that ultimately relieve the pain and set both free to continue to their next stages of development.

Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic

Xavier and Mary Nathan are in private practice at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel, Isle of Man where they use a combination of hypnosis and psychotherapy adhering to the principles outlined in this post. To find out more about the therapy provided by Xavier and Mary at Setanta Clinic visit their website or call 842938 to arrange a free initial consultation.

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Hypnotherapy for Young Children and Teenagers

by Mary_Nathan

Published on: January 17, 2013

Categories: Health, Hypno-Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Isle of Man, Mary Nathan, Stress, Thoughts & Feelings, Xavier Nathan

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Why Hypnotherapy is so successful for children

Children are naturally open to hypnotherapy as they have few if any misconceptions about hypnosis. Most of them, especially the younger ones, have never heard of stage hypnotists so an explanation about the vast differences between what I do in therapy and what stage hypnotists do on stage is not necessary for the young clients. Mum or Dad may need to be reassured but I take care to answer all questions thoroughly during our Free Consultation. Treatment is explained to each client using appropriate language to ensure they understand every step of this journey to recovery.

One of the reasons hypnotherapy is so successful for children is that children use their imaginations on a daily basis for much longer than adults. They can easily move from being a fairy princess to a dinosaur or a character in their favourite television programme in seconds. So when I ask them to imagine or visualise themselves in their bed or at the hospital, for example, they can do so immediately.

Solution Focused Child Centred Therapy

In therapy it is the child’s needs which are paramount and as such I work very closely with each child making them fully understand this. Once the children realise that they have a say in the final outcome therapy naturally flows. The therapy is solution focused, that means that the child, parent, and I all work together to get the best outcome for the child.

Though treatment is child centred parents play a very important role in the progress of therapy. Positive reinforcement is so important between sessions and long after sessions have finished. This may mean asking the parents to change the way they talk about the problem while the child is receiving treatment. A change in tense can be so significant; setting the problem in the past and allowing the possibility of change to sink into the child’s subconscious mind much more quickly.

In the western world a child is anyone under the age of eighteen and teenagers respond as well as younger children. Needless to say more appropriate language and questioning is necessary to engage a teenager.

Examples of the conditions Mary treats at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic

If your child suffers from any of the following:

Nocturnal Enuresis (bed wetting)
Encopresis (uncontrolled bowel movements)
Anxiety
Sleeping difficulties
Behaviour Problems
Nail Biting
Thumb/Finger Sucking
Tics or Habits (urge to blink, urge to clear the throat)
Examination Anxiety
Poor Concentration
Excessive Sweating
Skin Problems (Acne, Eczema, Psoriasis)
Heavy Menstrual Bleeding
Fears and Phobias (fear of flying, spiders, insects, needles, heights etc.)

These are just some of the very many conditions I treat.

How to proceed

Perhaps you would be interested in a Free Initial Consultation at Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic, Peel.

If you would like more information or to book a consultation with me, please call Mary on Tel: 842938 to arrange a suitable time.

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Why Suffering?

by Xavier_Nathan

Published on: December 18, 2012

Categories: Health, Human Spirit, Hypno-Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Isle of Man, Mary Nathan, Stress, Thoughts & Feelings, Xavier Nathan

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Photo credit to: Honikum

The power of belief

Our expectations are determined by what we believe. What we believe about life and the world around us influences what we expect to happen to us and others. It is our belief systems that determine how we perceive people. It is our belief systems that determine how we perceive situations and experiences. At a subconscious level we learn how to react to people and situations and we make decisions regarding our behaviour and condition in order to fit our belief systems. The adjustments made at the subconscious level can result in symptoms we call allergies, disease or illness and behaviours we call compulsive, addictive or destructive. This all happens below our consciousness so we are unaware of these developments until we start to experience the results of these decisions taken at the subconscious level. At the subconscious level symptoms and behaviour patterns are chosen with our best interests and highest good in mind but these very decisions may well be responsible for feelings of unhappiness and hopelessness we might feel right now.

Karmic constraints

The decisions made at the subconscious level are made within the constraints of the belief systems we cling to and in order to affect change then it is necessary for us to loosen those constraints and open ourselves to seeing life and the world from a wider variety of perspectives. The degree of our happiness is governed largely by our capacity to let go of any belief that results in causing us pain or unhappiness. This is, however, more easily said than done because the beliefs that we hold are developed over many lifetimes.

Pain and suffering have a purpose

Unhappiness and pain have a purpose in that without them we would never question our perceptions. Pain and unhappiness are merely reminders for us not to get too comfortable with our perceptions because they are not real. Our purpose here is to discover the truth of who we really are through the veil of the belief systems we use to define ourselves.

Many are unwilling to heed the reminders and remain slaves to their beliefs imagining that the pain and unhappiness they experience are outside their control. It is the willingness to change and embrace the adventure of life, the way a child experiences things for the first time, without any preconceived ideas, criticisms or judgments. All the while trusting in that higher consciousness, within each of us, for our guidance and inner security … then we start to ensure our peace, happiness and fulfillment.

Hypno-Psychotherapy at Setanta Clinic in Peel

Hypno-Psychotherapy is a journey within through layer after layer of beliefs that block us from seeing who we truly are and preventing us from achieving our destiny. You don’t have to suffer from a mental disorder or disease to undergo Hypno-Psychotherapy and everyone who has undergone the treatment has reported only the most positive results. If you are interested in learning about the mind and how to navigate the subconscious to in order to release anything that may be blocking your personal development and self realization then Hypno-Psychotherapy may be for you.

If you live in the Isle of Man and would like to learn more then call Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic in Peel on 842938 to arrange a free initial consultation.

Weight Loss with Hypno Gastric Band Therapy

by Mary_Nathan

Published on: December 13, 2012

Categories: Health, Hypno-Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Isle of Man, Mary Nathan, Thoughts & Feelings, Weight Loss

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Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic Hypno Gastric Band Therapy

Setanta Hypnotherapy Clinic is now offering a Weight Loss Program using Hypno Gastric Band Therapy. The therapy consists of five sessions and each client is presented with a Personalised CD to reinforce the work done in session at home.

How does it work?

Firstly, a detailed history is taken of each client during the first session. We find out the habits and associations the client has to food and the client decides on the desired weight loss. In the subsequent sessions the client receives a course of relaxing hypnotherapy sessions which enable a new belief system to be created. Under hypnosis the client is lead through a virtual gastric band surgery procedure. In other words, the client while reclining in the comfort of the clinic is lead through the surgical procedure as if it is really happening. The client goes through the experience of undergoing surgery under anesthetic and being fitted with a gastric band. The band is fitted in order to reduce the size of the stomach so that the client simply does not have the same capacity for the volume of food he/she once ate.

The reason why our clients can really imagine they are under going surgery is down to the pains I take to ensure they master the art of self hypnosis prior to surgical procedure itself. The way I do this is after the client has agreed to undertake the procedure I require them to download Treatment Preparation by Mary Nathan from our website downloads page and which they play prior to starting. This audio is specially designed to engage the subconscious and make the client a master of self hypnosis. The treatment preparation is so powerful that the subconscious mind goes through the virtual surgery without the pain or danger of actual surgery and accepts that the band has indeed been fitted. As a result of this the client will feel fuller after eating smaller portions of food, feel satisfied and s/he is then free to begin enjoying the long term health benefits of losing weight and gaining and maintaining their ideal healthiest weight.

What is Gastric Band Surgery?

Gastric band surgery itself is a complex procedure in which a band is fitted around the stomach to make it smaller – so reducing the amount of food the stomach can cope with. The virtual gastric band is designed for people who desperately want to lose weight but don’t want to go down the surgical route… and so it mimics the feeling you get after having the surgical procedure (but without the pain and discomfort) and has all the beneficial results, but at a fraction of the cost!

The Cost

The 5 sessions of therapy along with with the Personalised CD + Healthy Eating and Sensible Exercise CD is £550

Is the treatment guaranteed?

As with any other medical or weight-loss treatment there is no complete guarantee. However, Hypno-Band has an extremely high success rate with long-term results. The main key to successful treatment is YOU. If you are totally committed to losing weight then Hypno-Band should work well for you.

Is it safe?

Hypno-Band is completely safe. It does not involve any invasive surgery or pain, and is a relaxing, pleasurable treatment with no side effects, other than the weight loss you want to achieve.

Is Hypno-Band Therapy right for me?

If you are overweight and committed to losing weight then you are a suitable candidate for Hypno-Band. However, if your weight has an emotional root cause then Analytical Hypnotherapy would be the first avenue to explore prior to the Hypno Gastric Band sessions.

For further information or to book a Free Consultation please call Mary on Tel: 842938

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